My first blog
Rome was not built in a day. If you think about it, Rome was not built in a year either. In fact, Rome is still being build today.
Change. Time. Patience. Perseverance. Struggle. Labor. Love. Life. This is what it takes to build something out of nothing.
This is a manifesto: it is my promise to myself and to you that I will create a place for near 40, almost 40, 40 something people out there, for all of you who – just like me – are somewhere in the middle of life, not quite so young anymore, but not quite old either.
This is a story – a story of becoming, of embracing change, a story of challenges, a story about new beginnings.
This is not a fashion blog – you are not going to find here advice on how to gracefully dress in your 40s, what to wear and want no wear. Not into that, I am afraid. It would be easier though – there are so many resources out there! Might be that, accidentally, we will discuss a bit of fashion also. But it will be from a different angle, I promise.
This is not a food blog – you are not going to find here hundreds of recipes organized by category, you will not going to find here what to eat or what not to eat. However, sometimes, you might find some useful food advice, maybe even some recipes too.
This is not a blog about weight loss – since I am not an expert, quite the opposite, I am afraid. I have not discovered the secret of losing weight and staying fabulous and thin. I wish I did, though! But I will share with you things that help feeling better about yourself no matter the size of your body.
This is a blog about LIFE. About being different and about making a difference. About being yourself. And loving it. It is about changing one’s mindset and so allowing yourself to grow. It is about inspiration and hope.
Each week you will find me here, with a new story to share. So let’s begin.
How to wake up and start dreaming again
Once I was so very young and I had the world at my fingertips. I was strong, I had so many years ahead of me, so many dreams, so many expectations. And than I woke up one day and I was almost 40. I almost stopped dreaming and became weak.
A lot happened in between: I graduated, I married, I started working in a corporate environment, I became a professional, I got pregnant and gave birth to my beautiful, wonderful child, I worked hard, I pushed my limits, until one day I lost the ability to dream and the world was no longer at my fingertips. My inner universe was crushed – because for many years I had no time and no energy to dream my own dreams. My dreams came to be dependent on others.
My dreams for myself became little: a raise (that did not come no matter how hard I worked, since corporations seem to be in a permanent cost freeze lately; a new job that almost happened a couple of times – but it did not in the end; a few (please read many!) kilos lost that translated into a few (again please read many!) kilos gained. And one day, being almost 40, near 40 but not quite 40 something yet, I realized I desperately needed to start dreaming again.
Does it sound familiar?
If it does, this post is for you!
Starting to dream again is hard. After almost 2 decades of neglect, you are not used to it anymore. Listening to yourself is hard as well. And in order to start dreaming again, you need to start listening to yourself. Schedule a couple of minutes a day for one to one meetings with yourself. Dig deep into your soul and investigate what it really needs. Ask yourself what made you tick when you were younger, when did it all change for you and why. Keep yourself accountable for this attempt of finding your dreams again.
It will take time. Don’t let yourself feel like you do not have time anymore! The key to successfully finish this exercise is to keep doing it. Each day. Even after you start dreaming again. Because dreams can change. You will change. You will grow. It is up to you if you choose to only grow older. Or if you decide to become larger than life.
Someone very wise (and I cannot remember who) said that a goal is a dream with deadline. It is up to you if you transform your dreams into goals for yourself. Goals that depend only on you. Goals that represent who you are as a person. And than act. Dreams remain just dreams if they are not accompanied by actions.
Until next week, I leave you with the thoughts of Roald Dahl: “Those who don’t believe in magic, will never find it”.
Lots of sunshine to you all!
Near 40 Dana